For decades, I’ve been fascinated by the life-altering effect of asking yourself empowering questions. 99% of people spend most of their waking day asking themselves the wrong questions.

Questions like:

• Why did I say that?
• Why did he do that?
• Why did that have to happen?
• What’s the world coming to?

None of these questions inspires great answers.  They usually serve to make us feel worse about a situation rather than better.

When you start asking yourself quality questions, you start getting quality answers.    When you ask empowering questions, you start feeling empowered.  And when you ask inspiring questions you start living an inspired life.

But what are these questions? I wondered about this exact question for years.

So I started making a list of empowering questions – the kind of questions that inspire better answers.

Questions that made me feel happier, more empowered, more joyful and more enlightened.

It turned out to be a very long list…

250 Questions to Ask Yourself

I’ve broken the list of questions up into sections so you can pick and choose which questions to use depending on how you want to feel or what you want to shift.

20 Questions to Ask Yourself to Raise Your Vibration

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1. What is Your Highest vision for me? (c/o The Mindful Movement)
2. What would the best version of me do now?
3. How can I be of greater service to the world?
4. What am I really here to do?
5. How can I feel better now?
6. Do I want to change the situation or do I want to feel better now?
7. What can I do in the next 5 minutes to feel better now?
8. Can I give myself permission to feel good before I get what I want?
9. What if I just chose to feel better right now?
10. How am I (insert word of your choice), right here, right now?  e.g. How am I happy? How am I abundant? How am I supported?  (the opposite of whatever you were feeling)
11. How can I take the path of least resistance?  (c/o Abraham-Hicks)
12. What does the world need from me today that I can readily and easily give? (c/o Mandy Morris)
13. Is this fun?
14. What lights me up?
15. Will choosing THIS move me closer to my dream life?
16. Will choosing THIS move me closer to who I am becoming?
17. What would the person I’m becoming do now?
18. What would my future self thank me for?
19. What can I do that’s good for me (fun), good for others, and for the greater good?
20. What can I let go of right now?

12 Questions to Ask Yourself in the Morning

Examine the first thoughts that pop into your head when you wake up in the morning. If any negative thoughts come up, think of the opposite (what you’d like to be thinking instead) and pose it as a question.

Here are some ideas for you.

1. What am I grateful for today?
2. What am I focusing on?
3. How can I focus on the positive today?
4. What makes me feel alive?
5. How can I choose LOVE today?
6. How can I choose FUN today?
7. How can I choose PEACE today?
8. How can I choose PROSPERITY today?
9. How can I focus on GIVING today?
10. How can I be in SERVICE today?
11. How can I light up the world today?
12. What makes me smile?

12 Questions to Ask Yourself to Feel Free

One of my favourite questions I’ve asked myself for years to make me feel free of things that may be going wrong in my life, especially the little every day bothers and frustrations, is this one:

Will this matter in 3 years? Or even a year?  (Will I even remember I felt this way?)

The important thing to understand about emotions and most everyday situations is that they are fleeting.  They come up and go and getting upset, anxious and worried about them is usually pointless.

The Work by Byron Katie

While that question helps for small things, it is incredibly freeing to also question hurts that have been plaguing you for years.

Many people carry anger and bitterness into their dotage about things that happened to them in their childhood and struggle to let their resentment go and forgive those who hurt them.

What they don’t realise is that it’s their own thoughts now that hurt them, not the person who did them wrong way back when.
When I first read Loving What Is and started practising The Work by Byron Katie, I was able to let go of deep hurts from my own childhood and feel a joy bubbling inside me that I hadn’t felt in years.

Now, questioning my stressful thoughts has become a way of life and I let hurts go very quickly – nip them in the bud before they can fester and take on a life of their own.

How to Start Doing The Work

First examine, what hurts. Think of any situation or event that has caused you suffering in your life.

What makes you feel stressed, frustrated, angry, hurt or disappointed?  Make a list.

For in-depth preparation before you do The Work, you can fill out Byron Katie’s Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet.  You can download the worksheet and find videos of Byron Katie herself doing The Work at https://thework.com/

Now, pick the thing on your list that bothers you the most and ask yourself the questions below.

For example, you might write choose something as painful as abuse in childhood.

Here’s a little video I created for one of my online courses where I explain how to do The Work on the phrase “He (or she) shouldn’t have abused me.”

Doing The Work

Here are the questions in The Work that set you free.  There are four main questions and a few more questions if you find you’re working with a thought that’s sticking, not shifting easily.

1. Is it true?
2. Can I absolutely be sure it’s true?
3. How do I react when I think that thought? (What happens?)
4. Who would I be without that thought?
5. Is there any (stress-free or peaceful) reason to hold onto the thought?
6. What’s the reality?
7. Whose business am I in?
8. Can I think of a reason to let go of the thought?

Turn the Thought Around

Once you’ve asked these questions, it’s time to turn your thoughts around.

So you take the thought you chose and turn the thought around, by changing up the sentence, looking at it from different angles.

Let’s take the example above, he shouldn’t have abused me.

One turnaround could be:  I shouldn’t have abused him.

Think of all the times over the years when you were abusive to the person who abused you.  How did you treat them?

Another turnaround could be:  I shouldn’t have abused me. 

Consider how many times you abused yourself by thinking about or talking about the abuse.  Was this the abuse itself or your thoughts and memories of the abuse inflicting pain on you again and again?

Think of how you treated yourself every time you thought of yourself as someone who had been abused.  Did you think less of yourself or more?

Please note, that this isn’t about apportioning blame to someone or making them wrong.  Nor is it about taking the blame or making yourself wrong.

It’s about questioning the thoughts in your life that have caused you stress, pain, suffering and conflict in your life and then letting all that go.  It’s about letting go of resentment and choosing the path of peace. This is a process that helps you forgive past hurts and move on, free of resentment.

Diva Creation Game by Nicki Shira Byrne

I learned the Diva Creation Game from an awesome life and business coach named Nicki Shira Byrne.

Nicki is also the coach who taught me how to love clients into being.

She’s a real-life Diva (Nicki is a Singer) who has coined the phrase “divatude“.

The Diva Creation game I picked up a while ago while doing one of Nicki’s challenges.  Here’s how it works.

Think of something that makes you feel uncomfortable or stressed.

Then, play the Diva Creation game by asking yourself these 3 simple questions.

1. How am I creating this?  (in my thinking right now)
2. What would I like to create? (usually the opposite of what you’re experiencing right now)
3. Who can I be right now to create this? (embody the feeling)

200 Afformations

Sometimes called Askfirmations, these are Affirmations asked as Questions.

Personally, I feel they work better than affirmations because asking a question prompts your brain to come up with an answer. Your brain is wired to answer questions.

Afformations are questions you can fire that help you realize how great your life really is.

I’ve made a long list of 200 affirmations and not all of them may ring true for you at first. That’s okay because as you keep saying them, they will start evoking more positive thoughts and as a result, you’ll see your life transform.

You can use this list of afformations any way you like.

You could read through all of them or just pick what you need for the day.

You could read through them out loud as a morning and evening rampage?

Pick one each day that resonates with you and journal or meditate on that one question.

Tap them in using the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), as I did in this video on how to clear money blocks using afformations.

21 Afformations to Call in a Wonderful Life

1. How do my days get to be so filled with such joy and wonder?
2. How is my life getting better and better every single day?
3. Why do I love life so much these days?
4. Why is every day filled with magic and miracles?
5. Why does it feel so wonderful to be alive?
6. How did I get to be so happy?
7. Why does a perfect life come so easily for me?
8. Why is life so good to me now?
9. Why do I always feel so peaceful?
10. Why do I always feel so joyful?
11. Why does life feel so magical?
12. Why is everything working out so well in my life?
13. How did everything start slotting into place?
14. Why do I have so many things to be grateful for?
15. Why is my life so easy?
16. How come things are so crystal clear to me now?
17. Why does everything always go right for me?
18. Why is it okay for me to be happy?
19. Why am I so richly blessed in all areas of my life?
20. Why am I worthy of an amazing life?
21. Why is my life so wonderful?

13 Afformations on Feeling Awesome

1. Why do I wake up every morning so full of joy?
2. Why do I go to bed every night feeling so blessed?
3. Why do I feel so alive?
4. Why do I have so much energy?
5. What makes me feel so safe?
6. How do I get to enjoy such peace in my life?
7. Why do I feel invincible these days?
8. What makes me feel so protected?
9. Why am I so calm?
10. Why is it so easy for me to relax?
11. Why do I feel so content?
12. Why do I feel so loved?
13. Why do I love being so healthy, wealthy, and happy?

32 Afformations on Self-Love

1. Why do I feel so full of love?
2. What makes me so lovable?
3. Why do I love myself so much?
4. Why do people say such nice things to me?
5. Why are people so helpful wherever I go?
6. Why do I feel so blessed wherever I go?
7. What makes me unstoppable?
8. Why do I love myself so much?
9. How did I get to be so confident?
10. Why do I take such good care of myself?
11. How did I get to be so proud of who I am?
12. How did I become so powerful and strong?
13. Why is it so easy to know exactly who I am?
14. How did I get to be so clear on who I am?
15. Why do I feel so wonderful about who I am?
16. Why is my vision so clear now?
17. Why does everything make perfect sense to me now?
18. How did I get to be such a great problem solver?
19. How come I always have the best solutions?
20. How did I get all this insight?
21. Why can I always work out what to do?
22. How did I find such perfect balance?
23. Why is it so easy to have order in my life now?
24. How did I get to enjoy such a clean, orderly environment?
25. Why is my life so peaceful?
26. How did learn to flow so wonderfully with life?
27. How did I so easily and rapidly start mastering every aspect of my life?
28. How did I get to live the life I always wanted to be living?
29. Why do I feel so grateful for every little thing that comes my way?
30. Why do I have so much to be thankful for?
31. Why am I so thankful to be who I truly am?
32. Why am I proud of myself?

12 Afformations for a Happy Marriage (or Relationship)

1. Why is it easy for me to attract love and keep it?
2. Why does my marriage work so well?
3. What makes us perfect for each other?
4. Why am I the best partner for him?
5. Why is he the best partner for me?
6. How did I choose such an awesome partner for me?
7. Why am I so grateful for my spouse?
8. How am I a thoughtful, appreciative partner?
9. How am I being loving?
10. How am I being caring and kind?
11. Why am so loved?
12. Why is my home such a happy place?

11 Afformations for Healthy Family Relationships

1. Why do I have such a happy family life?
2. How did I get to have such wonderful parents?
3. Why am I so loved?
4. What makes me such a caring daughter?
5. What makes me such a beautiful sister?
6. Why do I  have such a loving family?
7. Why am I such an awesome mom?
8. How did I become such a loving mom?
9. Why am I such a great role model?
10. Why is everything I do a blessing to all those around me?
11. Why do my loved ones enjoy time with me?

15 Afformations for Loving Friendships

1. Why do I draw so many wonderful people to me now?
2. Why do people value and appreciate me?
3. Why am I such a wonderful friend?
4. Why do all my friends love me?
5. How did I get to have the best friends?
6. Why do I attract such interesting people into my life?
7. Why do people find me so interesting?
8. Why do I have so many friends?
9. Why do people love to support me?
10. How do I nurture such quality friendships?
11. Why is it so easy to attract caring people into my life?
    
12. Why do people love doing nice things for me?
13. Why do I attract positive people?
14. Why are all my relationships so positive?
15. Why do I attract people who bring so much happiness into my life?

19 Afformations for Success in Business

1. Why do I love the work I do?
2. How do I get to do what I love?
3. Why am I important to people?
4. Why am I of great value to the world?
5. Why do I always achieve everything I set out to achieve?
6. Why do great opportunities keep coming my way?
7. Why am I so good at creating wonderful opportunities?
8. Why is it so easy to stay focused on what I’m doing now?
9. Why is it easy to prioritize my most important tasks now?
10. Why do my clients love to support me?
11. Why do I always arrive at the perfect time?
12. Why did that meeting go so well for me?
13. Why do people value what I say?
14. Why do I always know the right thing to say?
15. Why am I always in the right place at the right time?
16. Why am I such a magnet to success?
17. Why am I making sales every day?
18. Why do my ideal clients love working with me?
19. Why am I making money in my sleep?

35 Afformations for Prosperity

How to Clear Money Blocks using Affirmations, Afformations and EFT

1. How do I get to earn so much doing what I love?
2. How does money come to me in expected and unexpected ways?
3. How am I drawing money to me in every moment?
4. Why do I deserve all this money?
5. Why is it good for me to be wealthy?
6. How does it benefit others for me to be wealthy?
7. Why do I so easily attract everything I want now?
8. How have I paved the way to money?
9. How can I pave the way to more money?
10. Why am I so lucky?
11. How do I always get to be in the right place at the right time?
12. How did I get to be so wealthy?
13. Why am I so rich?
14. Why am I a magnet for money?
15. Why is my income rapidly increasing now?
16. How did I get to be so abundant?
17. Why does wealth come so easily to me?
18. Why is it now so easy to manifest all I want?
19. How did I get to be successful?
20. Why is it so easy to have success?
21. How is it that I never miss a trick?
22. How do I rise up to conquer all challenges?
23. Why do I always have plenty of money?
24. Why is it easy for me to make money now?
25. Why is my bank balance always growing?
26. Why is my business such a huge success now?
27. Why do such wonderful people love doing business with me?
28. Why am I so good at managing my money?
29. Why is it easy for me to save money now?
30. Why am I so good at investing wisely?
31. How does money flow so easily to me?
32. What is the easiest way to make money?
33. How is more money lining up for me right this minute?
34. Why do I feel good about making money?
35. How do I always have more than enough?

Related: What’s a Money Blueprint and Can You Change Yours?

27 Afformations for Vibrant Health

1. Why is it so easy to be so healthy now?
2. Why is perfect health so easy for me?
3. How did I get to have such vibrant health?
4. How did I find it so easy to change my lifestyle?
5. Why am I so healthy now?
6. Why is it easy now to feel so attractive and beautiful?
7. Why am I so slim now?
8. Why do I love my healthy lifestyle now?
9. How did it get so easy to focus on self-care?
10. Why do I love exercising now?
11. Why am I so confident now?
12. Why is it so easy for me to remember what I learn?
13. Why is studying easy for me now?
14. Why do I feel so fantastic now?
15. Why do I sleep so well now?
16. Why do I have so much energy?
17. Why do I wake up every day feeling amazing?
18. Why are all the meals I cook so delicious and nutritious?
19. Why do I love my daily exercise routine?
20. Why do I love my daily walk?
21. Why am I such a great cook?
22. Why am I so happy when I look at myself in the mirror?
23. Why do I love the way I look?
24. Why am I so physically healthy and strong?
25. Why am I my ideal weight?
26. Why am I so emotionally healthy?
27. Why is it easy to express my feelings?

15 Afformations for a Divinely Guided Life

1. Why is it so easy to follow my Divine Guidance?
2. Why am I so filled with Divine healing light?
3. What makes me feel like I’ve found heaven on earth?
4. Why is the world filled with such awe-inspiring beauty and wonder?
5. How did I get to be filled with so much light?
6. How did I get to be a light in this world?
7. How did it become so easy to light up consciousness as I do?
8. How did I get to be filled with so much joy?
9. Why did God choose me?
10. How am I being loving?
11. How am I being forgiving?
12. Why is my life so peaceful?
13. How did learn to flow so wonderfully with life?
14. How is it that my life overflows with all the goodness life has to offer?
15. Why am I so thankful for all this and so much more?

3 Life-Changing Questions to Ask Yourself

Try out these questions if you want to shift your perspective on how you live your life.

1.  If I were to die tomorrow, would I feel at peace knowing I had lived a full, happy, loving and meaningful life?  Or would I die with my song unsung?

Phrased as an Afformation:  How did I get to live such a full, happy, loving and meaningful life?

2. Do I make people feel wonderful about themselves?

Phrased as an Afformation:  How do I make people feel wonderful about themselves?

3. What would I like my loved ones to say at my funeral?  (What legacy would I like to leave?)

The 3 BIG Questions to Ask Yourself

For as long as we’ve been on this planet,  philosophers, sages and people of all races, religions and creeds have pondered the 3 big questions, each finding their own answers by going within.

How do you answer the big 3?

1. Who am I?  Want a quick answer to this one?  Try the Who Am I Quiz  It’s fun, free, and easy to do and kicks up some interesting insights into your personality.
2. Why am I here?  (What is my purpose?)
3. What is the meaning of life?  (Why are we here?)

250 Questions to Ask Yourself

So there you have it, my list of 250 quality questions to ask yourself when you want to feel happy, inspired and empowered. 

What questions do you ask yourself on a daily basis?  And do you feel they uplift you or bring you down?

Update:  8th July 2022

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